Addicts And Alcoholics Commonly Lie
Dishonesty goes hand-in-hand with alcoholism and drug addiction, and if someone you care about is an addict, you have probably long since become accustomed to being told lies. This is especially true in the case of drug addiction, since the addict is afraid of getting caught doing something illegal and will go to great lengths to prevent the truth from becoming known. Even when it is not illegal, as in the case of alcoholism, the addict knows that what he or she is doing is unacceptable, and will usually be anxious to avoid being confronted about it by friends and family members. Some of the lies that your addicted loved one will probably tell you may be obvious, such as an alibi about where he or she was last night or excuses as to how he or she has been spending money. Others, however, include ones which you might not notice at first or which you may have accepted as being true. It is important to be on the lookout for such statements and reassurances, so that you don’t end up being fooled into accepting a false picture of what is really going on.
Classic Lies Told by Addicts and Alcoholics
“I’m not an addict.”
Perhaps the most blatant lie is also one of the most common. Many people do drink or use drugs without becoming addicts, and someone who has crossed the line into becoming addicted is likely to try to portray himself or herself as being among the few who are able to escape addiction. What you must realize about this lie is that it is one which in all likelihood the addict is also telling to himself or herself.
“I can quit whenever I want to.”
Whether or not the person realizes that he or she has become addicted, the addict will often confidently boast of the ability to simply use willpower and determination to quit cold turkey. In a way, this lie serves as the person’s way to comfort himself or herself with the belief that it will be easy to quit at some point in the dim future and that doing so will require little more than the decision. When the time comes to actually do so, the addict will learn that recovering from an addiction is often one of the most emotionally and physically challenging experiences he or she will ever face.
“My addiction is my own business.”
An addict will normally view his or her substance abuse and dependency as being a private matter or perhaps as a victimless crime, but this simply is not the case. You know from first-hand experience just how much a friend or family member’s addiction can affect your own life. The addict will become withdrawn, is more likely to be involved in an accident, may be arrested on drug charges or for DUI and may lose his or her job. Conditions at home deteriorate as the addict starts dropping the ball on matters such as cooking, cleaning and other shared responsibilities, and may even start to actively make the space messier and less enjoyable to be around. Addicts commonly miss appointments, fail to live up to their promises and dump their responsibilities on those around them. Life with an addict can be chaotic and upsetting, to say the least.
“My drugs are safe since they are prescribed by a doctor.”
Prescription painkillers are now the second-most widely abused drug in America, and painkiller overdose kills more people every year than cocaine and heroin combined. Painkillers, stimulant ADHD drugs and sedatives such as Xanax are all commonly abused prescription drugs, and one of the biggest fallacies driving the spread of their abuse is the idea that they are safer than other drugs since they are manufactured by pharmaceutical companies, have received FDA approval and are prescribed by a doctor. Patients will often become addicted to their medications, and will justify their addiction by saying that they simply need more to treat their condition or that they aren’t really drugs.
“I can’t be an addict — I’m doing well in life.”
After years of seeing public service announcements and made-for-TV movies about how drug addiction will inevitably lead one into living life in the gutter, many people assume that the fact that they are doing well in life serves as proof that they are not yet addicted. Closely tied to this concept is the idea that one has to hit rock bottom before he or she can find the motivation to sober up. While it is true that alcoholism and drug addiction greatly increase the likelihood of losing one’s job, one’s friends and one’s family, a large percentage of addicts manage to hold things together and to do reasonably well — for a while anyway.